Blaming, withdrawal, criticism, and defensiveness are all common signs that a relationship is struggling. When issues seem impossible for partners to overcome, help is available. Aletheia offers expert relationship therapy serving Kalispell, MT with the Gottman Method.
While it is healthy to disagree and argue, a committed couple can begin to experience communication, trust, and other issues. Left unaddressed, these problems can ultimately create great distance between two people who were once fully committed to one another.
Have you or your spouse:
If you answered “yes” to one or more of the above questions, the Gottman Method of relationship therapy with Aletheia can help you to transform your partnership.
Aletheia serves committed partners living near Billings, Helena, Kalispell, and other areas across Montana with professional counseling services. Our spousal therapy options employ the Gottman Method to help improve and strengthen relationships.
The Gottman Method is research-backed therapy that brings estranged partners together via the use of intensive questionnaires, unifying experiences, and sessions with a certified therapist.
Partners work on building what Drs. John and Julie Gottman identify as the 7 floors of the Sound Relationship House. This experience focuses on:
Jim Ramsey, the first and one of only two fully certified Gottman therapists in Montana, offers counseling in several forms. He obtained his certification following the receipt of all of the advanced training offered through The Gottman Institute, including couples therapy, Couples Workshops, and Much More.
Committed partners each have their own way of interacting with one another and dealing with the problems that arise in their relationships. Those who choose Aletheia benefit from several relationship counseling options, from intensive and weekend experiences to couples group therapy.
One of the tools employed by therapist Jim Ramsey is the Relationship Checkup. This is a questionnaire that asks about some of the deeper issues and happenings within a committed partnership. Following completion, a couple gains valuable insights into their relationship, and the therapist reviews and reveals therapy suggestions which will be of the most help.
When a couple has reached a crisis stage in their relationship, and/or wishes to make significant progress with resolving conflict in a short amount of time, intensive relationship therapy offers the best solution.
This option sees spouses engaging in intense relationship work over the span of three days with sessions led by our Gottman certified therapist James Ramsey. This option eliminates the frustration caused by ineffective weekly sessions for months. It is relaxing, non stressful and there is plenty of time to fully work through difficult long standing issues and practice new skills. We achieve real hope and confidence and best of all a genuine “ paradigm shift “in the direction of the relationship.
Couples group therapy in MT involves working with other spouses who are also experiencing relationship problems. This affords participants the opportunity to work together to resolve conflicts. Partners gain insight and support from one another, and discuss the results of their homework in a safe and open environment with the Gottman trained couples therapist.
Communication problems can deteriorate a relationship from the inside out, causing lasting frustration and resentment. Partners counseling offers a solution for those in a wide range of relationships and circumstances.
Gottman Couples Counseling can help alleviate communication problems between committed or already-married partners, those who are co-parenting with an ex-spouse, navigating separation or divorce, or experiencing the aftermath of infidelity.
Those who have never participated in couples therapy may have questions about what to expect. The process begins with therapist Jim Ramsey leading assessment sessions, during which he works with the couple together for a session and then has a session with each spouse individually. He then uses the information obtained to gain an overview understanding of the relationship.
You will then asked to complete The Gottman Couples Checkup inventory online to provide your therapist with further details. From this information, you will receive feedback with regard to the interventions the therapist believes will be most helpful to you, and the current level of stability in your relationship. You then make the decision whether or not you wish to commence with the Gottman Couples Therapy.
Even though the initial session can provide much information about what marriage therapy will be like for the both of you, you may still be nervous and have questions about it.
The best way to alleviate concerns is to have a discussion between yourselves prior to your first official session with the therapist.
During the discussion, decide which problems are most important to you as a couple to resolve. You’ll each likely have your own individual problems that you’d like to see worked out in the therapy sessions as well; for example, you may want to learn how to handle conflict in a more positive way than you do currently.
Another thing to consider before therapy is the importance of being realistic and committed. Although seeing a counselor can be a great help, they cannot do their work alone; in order for your therapy experience to be a successful one, both spouses must commit to doing the work that’s necessary between therapy sessions to progress through the floors of the Sound Relationship House.
It’s also important to understand that no couple’s relationship problems will be resolved in one, two or even a handful of sessions; the amount of time it will take for problem resolution depends entirely on the couple. As well, the Gottman Method will teach you skills and coping strategies which you’ll need to use on a daily basis to maintain the health of your relationship.
Communication, trust, and intimacy problems can cause even the most stable relationship to deteriorate over time. Choosing Aletheia Marriage Counseling means benefiting from the Gottman Method, which has helped thousands of spouses make significant positive changes in their relationships.
When you and your spouse are ready to begin your therapy journey, we are excited to meet you! Get in touch online or call (406) 251-7073 for marriage counseling serving Kalispell and across all of Montana.