Research shows that two thirds of all divorces are being initiated by wives.. Wives that I see are often resentful and overwhelmed in their marriages. They feel like they have to initiate most everything and do almost all of the family related tasks. They also don't feel sufficiently valued and respected by their husbands and are very resentful about other things being a higher priority to him than they are.
Wives often feel that romance in emotional intimacy is a lot less frequent than it was before the children came. They don't feel sufficiently supported by a full partner in the relationship. In short, many women feel emotionally disengaged and lonely in their marriage and like they and their husbands are on separate tracks fulfilling their various responsibilities, but not really connecting with each other very often.
After doing marriage counseling for over 45 years and listening to thousands of husbands and wives I think I have learned some things that I can pass on to you that will really help you be more successful in your marriage. I learned a lot from my marriages after over 50 years as well as from each couple I have worked with during this time. One of the advantages that I have that in this case is very valuable to you is the fact that I am a man myself and have not only learned a lot from all the women I have counseled, but I really understand how your husbands see things and believe I can translate their perceptions and feelings to you in a productive way that will give you important insights into how to approach them with your needs and really get somewhere.
There are some skills that most wives need to learn in order to minimize their husbands defensiveness and negativity. It may not seem like it to you, but most husbands really love their wives and want to please them, but don't know how… This is what's really mystifying and frustrating to wives. Throughout their entire marriage they been telling them how to please them them but the messages haven't been getting through. I would like to coach you personally on how to have a very loving, responsive and emotionally sensitive husband who continues to be charming and masculine. If a little private coaching sounds really interesting to you, give me a call! At the very least I can probably help you get him to come into counseling a few times and see what I can do to help you out.
I look forward to hearing from you. Contact me today to see how I can help.