You may have heard the phrase “location, location, location” as it relates to real estate. But this also applies to other things, like Alaska Week. A stuffy office may not be the best location for men who would benefit from husband counseling.
Being in a counseling office setting can sometimes feel like being on trial; you are expected to discuss your feelings, and maybe you just aren’t ready to do that, or don’t feel comfortable doing so in that type of environment. Worse yet, you don’t want to feel ganged up on by your wife and therapist. You don’t want to feel judged, blamed or feminized by marriage counseling.
Now, imagine being in Alaska’s wilderness, experiencing all that nature has to offer all day long, catching salmon and halibut. In addition, after hearty morning and evening meals you participate in some hilarious and very relevant roleplays on ineffectively and effectively handling typical difficult marital situations that virtually all husbands struggle with.
Then, imagine discussions with your fishing buddies that may follow about how each of you have blown it at times with your wives and felt like total failures as husbands, with no idea of how to improve your situation. As you begin to clearly see what is going on under the surface in these situations, you will feel supported while you gain new insights and confidence as a husband. Having conversations with other men about your life, your goals and your thoughts on your relationship will be very helpful, especially without any emotional or critical wives around to inspire your defensive reactions.
Most importantly, you’ll learn how you relate to your spouse and her perspectives and feelings without appearing defensive or angry. In effect you will learn how to “calm her down” when she is emotionally upset, which most men feel they never or rarely are able to accomplish. If that weren’t enough, she will be happier, love you more, and be more emotionally and physically responsive toward you. As a result you will discover what healthy masculinity looks and feels like and how it will impact your relationship with your spouse.
Which of the above options sounds most appealing to you?
My role as a fishing buddy and marriage specialist is to relate to all of you much like a skillful fishing guide does. I simply know more about wives and how they think and what they need than you do, because of my specialized education and my daily life long experience working with thousands of couples. In addition, I have 56 years of experience as a husband, myself. I simply want to be available as a “Marriage Guide”.
Alaska Week will combine a world-class fishing and wilderness experience with husband counseling featuring the Gottman Method, research-based counseling that helps you reconnect with who you are as a man and a husband.
Who Is a Candidate for Men’s Marriage Counseling?
Perhaps you’re a spouse wanting to ask your husband to go to counseling. Or maybe you are not feeling like your wife isn’t relating to you like she used to, or that you aren’t the husband you used to be and this has you concerned. Finally, what you’ve been doing to cope with this situation isn’t working and often makes matters worse..
Husband counseling may seem like the last thing you’d ever sign up for. In fact, the mere thought of talking about yourself and your marriage may make you feel like running as far as possible in the opposite direction.
But believe it or not, these and other scenarios make you a great candidate for husband coaching.
Husbands wanting something different choose Aletheia men’s marriage counseling because of our methods, options and experience. The Gottman Method is a powerful and proven method of therapy that has been helping couples resolve their relationship problems for over 40 years. Therapists must be certified in the Gottman Method, which helps couples to:
Our couples and men’s marriage counseling options include:
Private Couples Therapy - An intensive retreat for couples, offering four months’ worth of therapy in one weekend.
Private Marriage Counseling for Husbands - One-on-one sessions for husbands who want to improve the way they relate to their spouses.
Christian Marriage Counseling - Helps couples achieve a more fulfilling relationship with the teachings of the Bible and Gottman Method principles.
Premarital Counseling - For couples who are just beginning their journeys as married partners.
I’m the first marriage therapist in Montana fully certified in the Gottman Method. Along with over 40 years’ experience as a Pastor, I’ve also been a husband myself for over 50 years. I’m much like other husbands, wanting to improve my marriage as much as I want to improve my fishing skills!
Q: How is the Alaska Week counseling retreat different from traditional marriage counseling?
A: Alaska Week is just for husbands. And instead of traveling to an office, participants enjoy a week in the legendary Alaskan wilderness that includes incredible fishing and daily group marriage coaching sessions.
Q: How do husbands benefit from marital counseling?
A: Marriage counseling for husbands provides powerful tools that can be applied for better communication, conflict resolution and enhanced intimacy. The Alaska Week allows husbands to communicate with and learn from one another as well as the marriage guide.
Q: What if I’m not comfortable with speaking about my marriage problems with strangers?
A: No participant of Alaska Week will be pressured to talk about their marriage problems with anyone. Even if you don’t say anything about your relationship, you’ll still learn skills you can start applying the minute you get home.
Q: What kinds of problems can counseling with Aletheia help me and my partner to resolve?
A: The Gottman Method of men’s marriage counseling offered at Aletheia helps couples resolve several problems, including constant arguing about the same issues, but never fixing them, indifference, not expressing yourself and lack of intimacy effectively.
Q: What if we are dealing with infidelity?
A: Although it can feel like there is no way to move beyond infidelity, this is a sign of marriage breakdown, which is often due to loneliness. Infidelity affects many couples and is a hurdle that can be addressed successfully with the Gottman Method.